Since human consciousness emerged, the great question has been “How do I live well?” The answers that countless individuals and cultures continue to offer fascinate me. Outside of my coaching practice, a significant part of my working life, is taken up with the conducting of funeral services, which gives me an incredibly profound insight into how real people have led real lives. Some may have turned out well and others not so well and telling their stories has helped me to distil a great deal of human wisdom which I bring to my clients in my one to one coaching, workshops and retreats, enabling them to address for themselves, in a way that's totally authentic to them, address that great question: “How do I live well?”.
Speaking on all areas of personal and spiritual development is both a natural extension of my fascination with the human condition and of my soul coaching work. During my 21 years as a priest in the Church of England I established a strong reputation as a warm, humorous and engaging speaker with a down to earth approach. Having now stepped away from institutional religion, and having always believed that it is more fun to explore questions than to try to shut them down with trite answers, audiences can expect intelligent input, expressed in an accessible way that both validates their own questions and provokes further inner exploration.
It's incredibly easy to get stuck in a rut; our life seems to drift and the things that used to set our hearts on fire no longer have the same force and power. A kind of overwhelming weariness or sense of being deeply unsettled or unfulfilled sets in and we can feel profoundly restless at the very heart of our being.
The key to my approach to Life Coaching is summed up in the phrase coined by the late Dr Stephen Covey: “Begin with the End in Mind.” From my long experience, a clarity about exactly what we want to achieve in our lives and how we would want to be remembered creates an authentic life journey focused on what’s really important.
When we live in line with our deepest values, driven by a strong vision for our lives and with the confidence that we are pursuing our true purpose, then life takes on a sense of joyful flow that seems effortless yet is deeply productive and satisfying.
Individual programmes can be tailored to dovetail with retreats or workshops and/or particular life events.
Today I can honestly say that I have found a level of personal happiness and professional satisfaction that I would have not have thought possible even ten years ago. I am able to live a life shaped by love, forgiveness and inner peace - partly thanks to the love, companionship and friendship of some amazing people, but primarily because, over the years, I have learned to focus on the point of stillness within me and, from that, find a more authentic voice than I have ever known. ’Twas not always thus.
Owing to circumstances beyond anybody’s control, by the age of 15 I had experienced bereavement, loss, domestic upheaval and uncertainty along with bullying at school - a chaotic early life that left me angry, lacking in confidence and seeking a place of safe refuge. In common with so many other people, my early experiences had stunted the development of an authentic self and not allowed my inner voice of calm to develop.
In my late twenties I began what was to be a life-changing journey through the ordained ministry of the Church of England. Whilst this gave me order and a sense of belonging as well as an opportunity to reflect deeply on the human condition, the relative rigidity of belief and practice required of a priest was not, in the end, for me. It did give me, however, a close acquaintance with all the shades of human life, an unshockability and an absolute commitment to confidentiality.
My practice is born of all that has gone before and continues to evolve and change daily. The journey never ends.
“We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.”
T.S. Eliot | Little Gidding
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